So what's the size of your game? For what in your life do you have a burning passion? What are you hungry for?

How much passion do you bring to your life? Here are three categories, only one of which you want to live in.

People approach the things they want in life in one of three ways:

I want to want to

These people give some kind of intellectual assent to the notion of change. It looks like "Yeah, that's something I should do" or "It sure would be nice if."

Don't count on any change here.

I want to

This is a little bit better than I want to want to, but not much. Here you will find a lot of lip service about change.

I must

Things happen here.

Actions are taken, and progress is made.

The state of "I must" means that change must happen, no matter what.

To what in your life can you bring that same kind of passionate commitment? How big is your game? How big would you like it to be? Could it be your marriage, your family, your job, even a hobby?

Next question. What are you waiting for?

The answer is, nothing of any significance.

Just one more question what's stopping you?

The answer is usually yourself.

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com