Many women feel they are putting their relationship first by spending all their free time with their partners. But too much time together can not only drain you of your conversation, but also your attractiveness and your self-esteem.

Newlywed Lydia found herself slipping into the routine of skipping gym and collapsing on the sofa with her husband in front of the telly with a glass of wine and dinner on a tray. After the exhaustion of planning the wedding, it was natural to want to nest at home together, and money was tight after all the wedding bills. But it was causing the spark in their relationship to fade. Lydia was becoming more of a boring sloth than a sparkling witty siren.

Lydia realised she wanted more than just a comfortable relationship. Working with The Wedding Coach, Lydia followed the following 8 steps towards getting things revved up.

1. Get out there Go out at least twice a week without your partner. See a movie with a friend, or join a book club, or meet a mate for a coffee. Your time spent apart will mean you have more to talk about when you are together, and he will miss you when you are gone. Parting is such sweet sorrow!

2. Get creative Find a hobby. Look at your local councils website you will find loads of interesting adult courses in the evening or on weekends. The courses are fun, inexpensive, and cater for beginners. It will bring out the playful child in you, and who could resist that?

3. Get active Take up some type of exercise. You will feel and look better for doing it and you will come back glowing and radiant. Think of all those sexy pheromones in your sweat he will find you irresistible!

4. Get gorgeous Treat yourself like a princess. Your partner loves you whatever you look like, but you will feel better about yourself for making the effort. If you are the type who lives in jeans, try wearing only skirts or dresses for a week. Do something every day that reinforces your femininity.

5. Get organised Cut down your TV by 1 hour a day, and spend that time getting your life in order. Sort out the bills, the thank-you letters, your will and insurance. These are things that can quickly become a point of conflict in a relationship, and you will feel in control by knowing they are all sorted.

6. Get planning Set some goals for you and your partner. Perhaps it is a holiday to Peru, or buying a rental property together. Work on the plan together. This is a great way to build your relationship and get you working as a team.

7. Get focused Work out what you want to accomplish in your life be it to have children, or see the Northern Lights, or own your own business. Set up a plan for how you are going to get there. The last thing in life you want is to wake up 10 years from now and resent your partner for all the things you havent done. And you will probably find your motivation is a source of inspiration for your partner.

8. Get support Dont be afraid to ask for help. Talk to your partner about what he can do to support you, and dont forget to ask what you can do to support him. If you are the type who lets thing slide, and whose plans fall by the wayside, consider hiring a life coach to help keep you on track.

It might seem like an effort to follow the steps above, or that you are spending too much time away from your partner, but variety is the spice of life, and your relationship will wither in the face of boredom. Remember that you and your relationship are worth it.